Growing Pains

This conversation happened in my classroom the other day:

Me: Are you okay? You look a little out of it today?

Student: Yeah... I'm okay. I just didn't sleep a lot.

Me: Why didn't you sleep a lot? Was there a good TV show on?

Student: No... my legs hurt a lot. Mom says I have growing pains.

Me: Oh, I see. Well, I just wanted to check on you.

     Yep. He had growing pains. Not the old TV show, but rather that "uncomfortable- gonna make me better but it hurts right now" pain. So naturally... my metaphor-finding brain saw this as a life lesson. Children have growing pains because their bodies are getting taller and stronger. Their bodies are telling them that something is changing. They are being stretched. Shouldn't we do this in our adult lives too?

     Growing pains. A necessary evil in any situation. Whether that is your career, your spiritual life, or your social life, growth is something that needs to happen in order to not have a stagnant or repetitive life. My pastor said at church today that it is very important to avoid that "going through the motions" phase of life. I agree with him completely. 

     But that too, got my brain thinking. If I don't want to just "go through the motions" but I have the same things to do every day (work, bunny care, cooking), how can I grow? I've been perusing other blogs and reading books and here are some of the things that I am going to try to do in order to avoid a life of "going through the motions."

          1.   Serve Others: This can mean a lot of things to a lot of different people. To you it might mean inviting someone over to hang out or have dessert. It might mean sending a letter, note, or package to a friend or acquaintance who might be having a hard week. Maybe for you it means taking time to pray for someone who needs it. Maybe it's a froyo date on a calm night of the week. Remember that serving doesn't always have to involve money. Get creative!

          2. Grow Spiritually: Spiritually means different things to different people. For me, this means joining a Bible study hosted by my church and meeting with women who want to learn to trust and believe in God with all of their hearts. We are doing the Beth Moore -"Believing God" study right now and it is amazing.

          3. Read books that challenge my existing ideas about the world: I recently read "I Like Giving" by Brad Formsa and the book challenged me to think about the giving that I do in my daily life. The book not only gives examples of ways to give (monetary and not), but it shows you the science behind giving. I picked up two other books recently with ideas that I have been struggling with lately. These will allow me to either change or confirm my ideas that I have and live out daily.

          4. Socialize: When you are in constant conversation with people who have your best interest in mind (friends or mentors usually), then through their life experiences, thoughts, and reflections, you will be able to grow. 

     I'm not saying that I am perfect in living a life full of growing pains, but I know that as long as I am trying to grow and feel the uncomfortable pain, I will be a taller and stronger person. (<---see what I did with that metaphor)

     I challenge you to go outside of your comfortable box and explore because you never know what you will find.

Create

            In my mind, there is nothing so freeing as to create. Whether that is creating a blog post or a new decoration or a homemade card to send to someone who has been feeling a little down. The simple (or not so simple) act of creating something is refreshing. I think this is why so many newly-on-their-own people find joy in cooking. They get to take things that weren't a part of something and make a dish that is satisfying and delicious (it could also be the years of meal plans... ehhmm... ritchie food...). I find myself clicking on the "DIY & Crafts" category on Pinterest more than any other category, just so that I can find inspiration for my next project. 

            Some folks say that school is what steals a child's ability to be creative and thus create. But I think that even more, the busyness that we put ourselves through is what steals our creativity. Sometimes, the routines that we are so set in, don't give us time to have the potential failure that creating comes with. Because we all know, that once you decide to create something (especially if you had Pinterest inspiration), the end result isn't always what it was supposed to be. That's because creating is all about the journey. The process.

            **Warning: here comes a metaphor.** Just like life. The journey is the important part. This is told to us teachers time and time again. It's the reason that we allow kids to fail in a supportive environment. It's because as long as they learn something along the way, they are not failing. The same concept was mentioned at church this morning. The journey is hard and long sometimes, but worth it because you will end up in a place that you never even imagined.

            Now that I ranted a little, let me bring it back. Create things. Create new meals. Create poetry. Create a craft that will bless someone else. Create a blog post. Create an art masterpiece. Create a new outfit combination from the clothes that you have. Create a get-together with your friends. Create a new fundraiser for a philanthropy close to your heart. Revamp an item that you already have around the house. Create a new tunnel system for your rabbit (maybe that's just me...). Create a Youtube video. Just create! You won't regret it.

Water Your Thought Life

      I read a book the other day (Growing Up Duggar) in which the authors mentioned the idea of a "thought life." That got me thinking... ironic I know. But in our world we focus so much on the idea of maintaining your social life and living a healthy life and even figuring out your spiritual life. How many times do you actually have someone ask you, "How is your thought life going?"

     Our society focuses on "finding yourself." They focus on knowing who you are and knowing what you want in life. But no one ever teaches us how to grow in our thought life. Why are we expected to grow in an area that isn't watered?

     So how do we water our thought life? I don't promise to have the answers but I think that it comes from a lot of different things. I decided to see what other people had put out in the world about the idea of a "thought life," so what do I do? Pinterest it. Here's a short list of some things that seemed to be reoccurring themes amongst my findings:

                1. Banish the Negative Thoughts: As soon as you find yourself falling in to a cycle of negative thoughts, whether those are about yourself or others or life in general, take those thoughts captive. Replace them with thoughts of...

                2. Hope: It's not the end. And when it seems like it is, take the opportunity to make it a new beginning! When you think that you have nothing more to give, keep trying! Don't give up!

                3. Keep Moving: Don't dwell. As soon as you dwell, or stop to count the exclamation marks, you end up driving yourself crazy. Never stay in one mental spot too long.

                4. Your thoughts influence your Actions: "What you think, you are" was a quote that came up a lot in my search. I think that this holds a lot of truth to it. In that case, isn't working on and thinking about your thought life worth it?

                5. You have a choice: "Choose Happy" was another saying that came up time and time again. This implies that you have the ultimate power over different areas of your life. You get to choose your attitude, reaction, and response.

     Some things that I would suggest doing in order to make sure that you are watering your thought life are:

                1. Journal-Record- Write in your diary: Whatever you want to call it. My friend Hilary makes a good case for journaling on her blog here.

                2. Accountability: Find someone who will ask you how your thought life is doing. Encourage them to share their thought life with you, too!

                3. Pray: I choose to pray. You may meditate, think, dance or whatever you do that leads you to that place where you are examining your life and how things are going. This time will foster a strong thought life.

     If you have all the power when it comes to your "thought life" why not choose to use that power? Take control of the power. Decide what you want the power to be used for. Water your thought life. Help it grow!

     I'll leave you with a quote, "You've always had the power my dear, you just had to learn it for yourself." -Glinda

An Empty Brown Wall

     I've gone to multiple stores. Searched online databases. Stared at the wall hoping that something, anything would come to my mind. But I've got nothing. Well, I've got a big empty brown wall. It has nothing on it. My couch sits below and above is a wall full of potential. So I decided to sit down and think, "What do I want this wall to say?" (because when you live alone... sometimes inanimate objects have to talk...)

     Isn't that like so many things in life? A blank canvas of potential. So why not set some goals? Figure out what you want "your wall" (and not the Facebook one) to look like. Looking back in a year, what do you want to see? Now's your chance to figure it out. Now, while you have a big blank wall.

     I think that I want my big brown wall (the literal one) to say that I appreciate the people in my life. I want it to invite, welcome, and encourage those who come in. Come to think of it, that's what I want my life to do as well.

     So, as you finish reading this random and brief blog post, think about what you would want your big brown living room wall to say about you? Is that what you want your life to say, too?

"But first, let me take a selfie."

Selfie /n./: an image of oneself taken by oneself using a digital camera especially for posting on social networks (credit: merriam-webster.com)

We live in a society with an abundance of pictures. And if you know me, you know that most of the pictures in my friend circles come from me. I love pictures. I love taking pictures to enjoy the moment. I love having pictures to look back on when I am sad. I love looking at pictures that take you back to that very moment and allow you to instantly remember. Because of all of those things, I have become more and more interested in all of the talk about selfies.

I have heard and read so many articles that hate on selfies. They say things like, "You can manufacture what you look like in a selfie" or "That's not a true picture of you" or "People who take selfies are completely self-absorbed." Now, I am not completely denying that some of those statements are true in certain situations, but rarely do you hear the other side of the selfie debate... 

I think that people are becoming more and more proud of who they are. I remember a time where people would freak out over a bad picture that was posted of them on Facebook and instantly remove it. I don't think that is necessarily the case anymore. I think that with the popularity of selfies growing, we, as a culture, are becoming more aware of what we look like. Some might think that is a bad thing, but rather I think that because you can't go on any social media site without seeing a selfie, we are being made more aware of the differences in the physical look of all human beings. 

And so what if you can pose or angle your head just the right way? By going through the process of finding the "perfect selfie picture" of you, you are observing all facets of you and what makes you unique. When you post the selfie on whichever social media site you happen to be on, you are showing pride in your appearance.

I know what you are thinking, "Katie, have you ever been on snapchat? Those selfies are generally horrible!" Yes, we've all sent the laying in bed, face all scrunched up snapchat. We've sent the "Oh my goodness, I'm exhausted" snapchat. We've sent the "freaking out" snapchat. And let's be honest, we've probably all sent the worst possible picture that we could take, to our closest friend. I think that these selfies are even more important than the "perfect" ones that we post on Facebook and Twitter. We take comfort in the fact that the snap that we send is only on the screen for 4-secs (or thereabouts) but either way, we take the picture. We embrace all sides of us... even the not-so-aesthetically-pleasing sides.

Let's talk about the selfies that are posted as an update in a weight loss/health journey. I say, go for it! Use social media, one of the biggest influences in our culture, to find support. You used to have to go to a gym or meetings to find support, but now let your 1500 Facebook friends help you out!

Selfies that aren't really selfies because they have someone else in it... are just as important in our society. Because a selfie is less formal, people are able to have pictures with people whom might not want to be "in front of the camera." Preserve those memories. Have some fun. Laugh a little at who has the bigger double chin before you retake it! 

We live in a selfie society. So embrace it. Love yourself. And post selfies with pride!